Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries

  • Telling all.
  • Talking at an intimate level on the first meeting.
  • Falling in love with a new acquaintance.
  • Falling in love with anyone who reaches out.
  • Being overwhelmed by a person: preoccupied.
  • Acting on first sexual impulse.
  • Being sexual for partner; not self.
  • Going against personal values or rights to please others.
  • Not noticing when someone else displays inappropriate boundaries.
  • Not noticing when someone invades your personal boundaries.
  • Accepting food, gifts, touch, sex that you don’t want.
  • Touching a person without asking.
  • Taking as much as you can get for the sake of taking.
  • Giving as much as you can give for the sake of giving.
  • Allowing someone to take as much as the can from you.
  • Letting others direct your life.
  • Letting others describe your reality.
  • Letting others define you.
  • Believing others can anticipate your needs.
  • Expecting others to fill your needs automatically.
  • Falling apart so someone will take care of you.
  • Self-abuse.
  • Sexual and physical abuse.
  • Food abuse.